Of Open and Closed Relationship
I am not sure if you get this in heterosexual relationships. In our world, relationships between a couple can be of 2 types - Open and Closed.
What is an Open Relationship ?
It roughly equates to - Let's love each other but feel free to go out and have sex with others just to satisfy your lust.
Closed Relationship is your typical sexually faithful relationship where fidelity is a major concern.
Then of course, you have the "sex buddy" kind where all is just sex and no love.
So how did "Open Relationships" come about ? It is really that guys are just so sexual that tying them down is unrealistic and in a relationshihp with TWO guys instead of just one, chances of infidelity happening is doubled ?
Or is it just a kind of relationship where "sex buddies" wants to be more than buddies. They want the companionship and feeling of love, yet do not like the commitment involved.
I have not heard about Open relationships in the hetero world, except for occassional spouse turning a blind eye to his/her partner's infidelity, or pretending it does not exist. I haven't heard of any cases where it is actually accepted.
I had an open relationship before. We were both younger and lustier. On my part, it is more of wanting "fresh meat". It is just plain sex and fun. I still loved my boyfriend. He is free to have fun too. When I know about it, I would like to ask questions like "How was it ?", "Was he better ?", "How big is he ?", etc.
Man, blogging about this made me horny again. Ha ha. So you see, with such high sex drive, no wonder I was doing all these.
Asked myself in the long term. Can open relationships last ? Are they stronger or weaker than the traditional closed relationship ?
I guess it all depends on individuals. My open relationship lasted 5 years. Of course, the last couple of years, the love has dwindled. Still, it was heartbreaking during the break-up.
I am all FOR open relationships, provided both parties meet the following requirements :
- Honesty
- True love for each other
- No feeling of jealousy, especially when the other partner has found a guy better in bed than you
If any of the above is not there, I think open relationships will not last.
posted by Happy in Singapore @ 11:17 am
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1 Comments:
yeah... we were both younger and lustier, that's why it's open relationship. i'm older now, can't really imagine to have a really open relationship now. occasional fun is okay, i don't mind that, but if i were to have a relationship again, i hope it's a committed one. of course the sex have to be good enough in the first place. =)
saying that sounds like i only agree with closed relationship, but no, i'm just like you, i think both open and closed could works well as long as both party are happy with the arrangement. and as you said those requirement are important, especially HONESTY. if one in open relationship, one have to be honest about who they have slept with, and if he have had safe sex or not. love come responsiblity, it would be very sad if one pass any undesirable desease or worst HIV to his partner simply because he slept around without telling his partner. if he's being honest, at least his partner has a choice if he wanna ever sleep with him again. lol.
and a correction. our love dwindled the last 6 months, after i met you know who he is. it tooks me so long to realize this, because i even lied to myself, simply just couldn't accept the fact. anyway, it's all past. happy to see u in a happy relationship. =)
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